This journey began before I was even born. 

The reason I “get” relationship and power dynamics, is because it is in my DNA. Power dynamics and manipulation in relationships ran in my blood line, and for the 3 generations before me (as far back as I have been told), these cycles repeated themselves.

I myself - in my own life now - have experienced what difficult relationship dynamics feel like and how they impact your life. Of course, I felt the impact of the generations that came before about what had been “taught” on the topic and meaning of “relationships.”

Communication has been a CORE theme for me. I quite literally didn’t speak when I was young, and then when I did, I needed speech therapy because I couldn’t articulate my words. From moving across the world to Germany at the age of 6, to my parents divorcing just a few years later, I struggled with communicating (language barriers) and understanding my emotions, especially when the emotions of others took precedent.

I became hypervigilant, walking on egg shells, and often felt stuck in the middle of complicated power dynamics and emotions. I felt a weight of responsibility to keep the peace, which led me to people pleasing, over-achieving and putting the needs of others above my own. I was scared to speak up truthfully and often didn’t even know how to articulate my feelings or needs, worried of how they might be received.

Later in life, this led to struggles with speaking up and sharing my honest feelings in toxic romantic relationships and friendships that I attracted. It made me question my own feelings, wonder if I was wrong, and left me completely disconnected from my own intuition. I didn’t trust myself, in what I was feeling or to stand up for myself.

When everything changed: becoming the cycle breaker.

To be honest, it wasn’t one moment. It was many individual moments that were woven together, not always clear at first, that brought me down this path of healing and now sharing this work.

From going off of birth control which blurred my connection to my intuition, to becoming an expert in subconscious rewiring and rewriting my own belief systems, to becoming so insanely grounded within myself that I always had my own back, to actually having the difficult conversations… it all flowed into how my relationships now flow today.

You cannot control what belief systems you are taught or brought into this world with from those in your lineage who walked before you. However, it is your responsibility to shed those patterns. When you do this, you completely change the trajectory of your life - the people you attract, the way you hold relationships, the ease at which you communicate. You feel more held, more safe, more fulfilled, as YOU show up more authentically.

Although it might not have started with you, the new era of embodied connection and flow in your relationships begins with YOU. It is your turn now, to take the responsibility and liberate, acknowledge and create your new reality of relationships. 

My superpower is my immense capacity to hold space for you and all your desires and shadows, where we lay out all the puzzle pieces and reflect them back to you in a way that supports you in solving your relationship wounds and connection puzzle with ease and clarity. 

x Olivia